Wednesday, January 25, 2012

I'm usually pretty okay at puzzles.

Okay, so I know that I do not ~need~ a man to be happy.  My happiness does not depend on whether or not I am in a relationship.  The fact of being alone again is not the reason I am depressed again.  Why is it whenever a girl gets really depressed after a breakup, people automatically assume it means she's co-dependent?

I'm not just depressed because I'm alone (again).  Yes, that is a factor - I'd be lying if I said it wasn't.  But like I said, I don't NEED a man in my life to be happy.  I don't NEED to be in a relationship to feel fulfilled.  It's just that I'm so damned lonely.  I've had a grand total of two relationships now that had long-term potential and then ended suddenly.  That's a grand total of two men - only two - that I have been with who treated me in a way that made me feel like I was worth being with.  I've had what feels like more than my fair share of meaningless pseudo-relationships.  I'm twenty-six and I just wanted the bullshit to be over.  I'm just ready to settle down with someone.